During our last check-in, we discussed people-pleasing. If you didn’t get a chance to check it out, you can click HERE. There is a blog post and a podcast episode there to help you understand what people-pleasing is and why it isn’t worth the trouble.

If there is anything the last two years taught us, it’s that things can change in the blink of an eye. If you were really paying attention, you learned to maintain your holding pattern because change sometimes moves as slowly as it does quickly. 

It’s imperative that you don’t allow your environment to change while you fight to stay the same. You have to change with it or run the risk of being left behind. You can keep your finger on the pulse of your being through journaling, prayer, or meditation. They can help you figure out how you interpret your experiences when you interact with the world. Do you mainly categorize your experiences as negative; do you only see problems? Are your experiences mainly positive; do you tend to see opportunities?

You should be able to determine what motivates you to embrace change or fight to stay the same. Are you motivated by your fears, dreams, or circumstances? If you don’t know. Now is a good time to find out. 

In addition to exploring what motivates you, you may also want to identify your values. Values, similar to boundaries can help you recognize when someone has crossed a line in your life or when they have gone to great lengths to respect what is dear to you. When you take time to figure out your values, you are telling people what makes up the foundation of your life. Your values can be identified by how you conduct yourself and how you treat others. 

Change is Good

It’s okay if things in your life have changed. You may not like what you liked last year. As an example, your choices of food or television shows may have expanded. Before you may have been a little lax with your health, now you find that you are a bit more concerned with the way you care for your body. You are allowed to shift and evolve. In fact, it’s what you are supposed to do. 

Where to Start

A while ago I held a workshop on the Wheel of Life. I use it with my coaching clients to figure out their perception of each area of their lives and where we should start working first. A few times the wheel of life exercise has uncovered that the area the client thought was the problem, really wasn’t.

Watch The Wheel of Life Workshop

Once the exercise is complete, find a place to bring the vision to life in your journal. Keep in mind that this is a “no strings attached” exercise. You don’t have to take it any further than this point if you don’t want to. When you’re done, review your results from the exercise and put all of the pieces together. Write as if there are no limits on your life. Once everything is written out, put the journal away. In a few days, read what you wrote. If you still feel inspired, work on the steps to bring your vision to life. Should the enthusiasm be in short supply, that’s fine too; no pressure. At least you have a record of what you want your ideal life to look like. You can pick up where you left off at any time. 

Give Yourself Credit

You’ve come a long way. You may not realize it, but you are better off than you think. You have experience on your side. You know yourself well enough to realize when a situation no longer serves you. You are aware of the rhythms of life; the ebbs and flows. You know the signs when you are about to hit a rough patch. Start planning for them. Try not to allow your lows to get too low or your highs to get too high. Bring them into balance. By now, you’ve figured out that life won’t always be lollipops and rainbows. At some point, you just want to be content – whatever that means for you – have your priorities in order, and leave a legacy for your family. 

You will get there by appreciating all you’ve gone through. Those events shaped who you are today and will help you embrace tomorrow.

If you find that you need help doing this, let’s talk about it during a complimentary discovery call. Click HERE  to schedule our time together. 

Jada Simelton

Ms. Simelton has been missing since October 22, 2021. She is 15 years old and her family fears she may be with an adult predator. Jada went missing from Houston, Texas. She is 5’5” and weighs approximately 120 pounds. Jada has medium brown complexion, black shoulder-length hair, and beautiful brown eyes. You will recognize Jada by the gap between her front teeth and moderate acne on her face. She isn’t known to wear glasses or contacts.

When Jada was last seen, she was wearing a pink shirt, pink leggings, and a pink jacket.

This information was obtained from 𝗯𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗰.𝗰𝗼𝗺

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